Are the Choices You Make for Your Success?
Whose success are you striving for? Is it the success you truly want. Measure your success focus against the happiest of your times and see if they measure up.
At the end (or the beginning for that matter), it’s all up to choice.
You always have the choice on how to re-act … pro-actively, or re-actively.
When you re-act, you respond to a situation without preparation, without fore-thought.
When you pro-act, you respond with pre-determination, with a plan in mind.
This reminder came to mind as I was replying to a post, in a forum, by this person who was fearful of success.
They seemed to have strived to achieve their dream, and, when it arrived panicked practically enough to drive it away.
Is it the unknown of success? In such a success driven society, it seems as if we are forever having the success dream pushed down our throats. Making it seem like some gigantic mountain that just keeps on growing as we attempt to scale it.
From small acorns ... (great oaks are born)
Success is your choice. You choose your success.
Listening to the radio today, they were discussing how in our still male orientated society women are still denied promotion opportunities.
The discussion turned to a woman who was very successful in her field and who was unable to get a promotion. It seemed that she had risen as high as she could in her corporate field, and that there were no positions open to her in the city in which she lived.
The choice she was presented with was to move her family so as to get a promotion, or stay where she was.
When her situation was discussed in more depth however, it was discovered that she chose to stay where she was as she was happy in her position … she did not want promotion, and the idea that ‘you have to keep getting yourself promoted’ is more of a male orientated fixation.
More biological difference to ponder!
Her success was to enjoy her career at the level she had achieved, enjoy her family life, and her lifestyle as it was … she chose her success level.
There is saying that people rise in business to their maximum level of incompetence. They’ll go up the company ladder as far as they can till they just can’t be promoted because they are rubbish at their job … I think I’ve dealt with a few of those over the years!
I replied to the person’s post about being fearful of success.
It’s your choice how exactly you choose to re-act … pro-act.
One, two, three, four bad experiences do not guarantee a fifth.
Imagine, as a child, if when you were taking those first few tentative wobbly steps … lifting yourself up, grabbing the nearest thing to steady yourself … and launching yourself off upright …
Yep! The first, second, third and more times you fell over. What if you’d thought ‘whoa, that’s enough … no more of this’.
But you didn’t. You carried on, learning each time how to steady yourself better, how to balance yourself, how to use your arms to steady yourself.
I advised the fear-full success person that the difference between enjoyable anticipation and fearful anxiety is so very close. That the ‘symptoms’ of really looking forward to something, and being nervous of something are separated by atoms.
You could think now about the times when you were really looking forward to an event, an occasion, one of those really great times you remember. How you may have felt in your chest, how your mind was chattering away, how you may have been so looking forward …
You chose to interpret those sensations as positive, as joyous.
And, you were being ‘pro-active’, planning to have a great time at this event.
Remember those kind times when you plan your success. Remember and re-live those honest sensations, using them as a springboard, and as a guide.
The success you choose is your choice – no one else’s. Your successes should make you joyous, happy, and fulfilled.
Measure your choices by your desires and dreams … no one else’s.
Enjyable measuring ...
Vic Carrara
www.empowersu.com
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